Yesterday I was bored so I opened up my blog to taking your questions.  If you can think of anything at all you want me to talk about or answer, leave me a comment and let me know.  It’s kinda fun to see your questions.  Anyhow, my friend Stefani from Mommy Enterprises asked the first one:

Okay, I have a good one!

Since you have been a surrogate mother, do you feel a bond still between the surrogate babies. I think it is so awesome that you have done this for others. It is definitely not something that I could ever do as I don’t really like being pregnant. I have been curious if there is still any attachment still there?

Short answer:  No, I have no attachment to the babies, I never have.

I am so very lucky because I get regular updates on the children from their families.  My picture for this post is new Christmas pictures of the triplets I delivered in 2007 and Baby J who was born this past May.  I receive the pictures, either text or email, and I think, “Oh my gosh!  What a CUTE kid!  I can’t believe how big they’ve gotten!”  But that’s really about it.  I love the pictures, I’m happy to see them.  But I don’t feel “love” or “attachment” to the children.  My heart doesn’t ache to hold them or anything like that.  Not at all.

I suppose it is a little like being an aunt.  I see my nieces and nephews, I love them, I care about them, but I certainly don’t want them or feel like they belong to me.

When you are pregnant with a surrogate baby, you feel protective.  I think anyone would feel protective of a baby that they were in charge of caring for, right?  Whether that be for a few hours or like a surrogate, for a few months.  But then you are happy to hand them over to their parents!

I feel the most happiness for the parents and the families that I helped create.  I care for my former “intended parents” a lot and I get joy from seeing their happiness.  That’s enough attachment for me.