Bob and I got in a bit of a tiff this morning.  I think he is totally wrong and I am totally right but in the interest of fairness I thought I would explain it to you, my friends, and let you decide.

Anthony wants to build (another) birdhouse.  Sounds simple enough, right?  Right.  They built one last Spring and we’ve had a lot of fun watching the little birds make families in our house.  We decided maybe we should put a birdhouse over our garden, too so that perhaps the birds could help keep the tomato worm population under control.

Well, Bob is a planner.  He went online and found birdhouse blueprints so that together *ahem* HE could build the birdhouse.  Well, Anthony is six and he does not have a lot of patience to wait around for his dad’s day off of work.  He really wanted to try and build the birdhouse today.  By himself.

I thought this was a fabulous idea.  I mean…why not?  He knows how to use a saw and a hammer.  Hell, I let him loose in my kitchen last week and I’ll be damned if that kid didn’t bake a cake.  An edible cake.  By himself with no recipe  (I’m so proud!).

So, Anthony set to work sawing the board into pieces.  His dad came from the other room and saw what he was trying to do and flipped his lid.  He got mad at me for letting him build the house.  “He’s going to do it wrong!”  “I printed out plans for it!”  “He’s going to fail!”

Fail?? Really?

So. What?

I am from the side that thinks he should be allowed to at least try.  So what if he fails?  So what if all the edges aren’t perfectly lined up?  So what if he saws a board crooked?  So what if he hits his thumb with the hammer? So the fuck what!?

This is how one learns.  He is being home schooled, after all.  These are priceless experiences that build self confidence in a child.  And, if it doesn’t quite work out the way it is supposed to…well, then you learn from that as well so that next time it can be better.  Having your dad do it for you all the time, does not teach you anything but how to watch.  I do not want my son to stand on the sidelines and watch.  I want him to learn and do and be successful and confident.

Does this look like a failure?

I’m totally right here.